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 |  Subject: Are you with the right partner  Wed Apr 10, 2013 2:20 pm | |
| Are you with the right partner During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if Iam with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, sheanswered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with yourpartner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's whyit's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet" Picture thee xpression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, andthen something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle ofEVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch isnot always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with everyrelationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stagewhen you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is whenrelationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby,friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemmadoes NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few yearslater.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it'slearning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work onit day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistakeabout it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or withoutyour partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such asgravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply theselaws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to youto decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to letGO....!!!
"There is no such thing as a hopeless situation. Every single circumstance of your life can change!" | |
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