Secrets of Happy Couples

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Secrets of Happy Couples

It is easy to spot a happy couple. You must be aware of folks who, after several years together, still seem to enjoy a magical life. They share wonderful chemistry, exude love and happiness, hold hands and enjoy their time blissful time with each other. Do you wonder how they manage to be happy? Here are few habits of happy couples.

1. Make Time

Happy couples know that life can be busy enough for each other to spend less time together. They stop and consciously carve out 'our time' to connect with each other. Going for a walk together, solving a crossword, enjoying breakfast or tea together gives a couple that extra time they need. It is essential to slow down and find time for each other each day. This goes a long way in nurturing the relationship every day, no matter how busy life can get.

2. Share Common Interests

After few months of marriage, you may find that you and your partner may share very few interests. However, you both can cultivate activities that you both can enjoy. Plan a fun activity that will include each other. Common hobbies such as going on a trek, cooking a new recipe, gardening or entertaining guests can re-kindle a dull relationship. Spending time together gives an opportunity to rediscover your relationship with your spouse.

3. Respect Each Other

Life can be full of incidents where one of the partners can be quick to criticize and put-down him or her. Treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. Mutual respect is one of the key essentials of a happy marriage. Showing respect to your spouse is another way to show that they are loved and appreciated. The habit of respecting, right from the early days of marriage, deepens communication and nurtures relationship even as time passes.

4. Spot the Best Qualities

In the medley of life, it is easy to see a person's flaws than his or her strengths. Inject positivity into your relationship by looking for more rights. Train your mind and heart consciously to spot the right things and show appreciation. Happy couples focus on positives for a long-lasting relationship.

5. Forgive and Move on

It is inevitable that a partner will do something that can hurt or upset the other. It could be an argument, a rude joke or even a simple misunderstanding. Forgiving your partner is one of the time-tested virtues of a marriage. Remember that you both are not mortals and give each other space to make mistakes since no one is perfect. If you commit a mistake, apologize and attempt to sort the problem. This will ease the situation, gives way to forgiveness, and strengthens the marriage.

6. Reach Out

Happy couples are in touch with each other throughout the day. Love notes, SMS, a short call to see how his or her day is going are few ways to reach out to each other. Staying in touch is a great way to connect and understand your spouse. For instance, it will be easier for you to understand why he is late for dinner since you know that he has had an awful day at work.

7. Maximize Touch Therapy

Happy partners are often seen holding hands or making other affectionate contact, which show that they belong to each other. They are not showing off, but indicate that they are comfortable in each other's presence. Did you know that holding hands with your loved one makes you less stressed leading to better health?

8. Value Each Other

Spouses tend to take each other for granted in the long run. This can eventually make a relationship go sour. Thank your partner for the little, yet important things that he/she does that keeps the household or marriage running. Write a note, small poem or send him or her flowers expressing your gratitude. Spontaneity and admiration certainly work wonders on any relationship.

9. Good Listening

Good communication skills can bring a big difference to a relationship. Never jump the gun when your partner is sharing something with you. Happy couples show positive vibes such as listening, thinking before talking, showing appreciation and affirmation when communicating with each other. Increasing positivity decreases negativity in a relationship. Reflect on your attitude and intentions when you are in conversation with your partner.

10. We all want a happy relationship with our partners for the rest of our lives. Do not underestimate the power of small changes. Make habits that maintain and strengthen your marriage and happiness.